how can some one record what you are doing online from another computer and how do i change or stop it? I have found out that everything i do is being recorded and this person sees who and what i am talking about

Sounds like you're at work and you have a network administrator monitoring your usage. Sorry, but recent labor law decisions tend to lean towards the notion that if you're on the company's machine, your e-mails aren't really yours when it comes to privacy issues. I don't mean your e-mails are available for public perusal, but what you type can come back to haunt you.

Install a firewall I recommend ZoneAlarm http://majorgeeks.com/download.php?id=34&sort=25 and run the spyware scan at http://www.trendmicro.com